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My husband did that last night then farted and then did the fan the sheets thing. We traded insults but in good fun and my husband decided as a result to get up so I could sleep better.

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You succeeded in making me laugh here. When a similar exchange occurs in my home the response I get is "What I can't help it if I have gas!"

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Is it possible you don't care about your husband anymore? Have you explored that possibility in therapy?

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I don't know what the (*&^ I'm doing in therapy at this point.
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Does she really think it will make you feel better?

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I think I detected a bit of sarcasm in her voice. I'm trying to take her comments at face value and not project or assume anything.

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your a woman in a partnership with another adult.

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I do remember her making a similar comment. That what I do for my kids is totally different.

As for what is a loving wife. I guess I have the image of Christopher Reeve's wife at his bedside gracefully accepting her responsibilities. I know it's stupid.

My T said something like.. 'No amount of therapy can make me change what I am feeling or not feeling. Your abuse is there, its always going to be there, you can't ease it, you're always going to feel victimized.' I think she was telling me I'm a lost cause. A victim, I'm what I despise most, a weak, frail, sorry ***, victim.