I wonder what little turtle has to say about this...
PS maybe try “observing” people.. be that “judge” you feel they are being of you.
Some quite solitary people are happy. I know that isn’t very helpful but I know several..

I’ve found that some doctors though are far too judgemental and have a God complex.. but I think you know that already. I question if they are actually “happy” if they feel that “need” ....