My mom used to do things like threaten to bash my windows out with a bat. Threaten suicide weekly, often on voicemail, because she wasn’t getting her way. Set off fights between herself and my husband (she felt he should have been waiting on her). Assaulted people getting into disputes. She had been arrested a couple of times. I had to bail her out. Once I had to talk a cop out of arresting her and get someone to drop a complaint. She got addicted to Ativan so badly that she couldn’t walk or get out of “bed” (she slept in a cot because she was wetting herself). She screamed at me for weeks because I took her keys away and locked her in my house while I ramped her dose down (she had gone to multiple doctors to get the deadly doses she was taking) because she was going to die I’d I didn’t. It was that or go to the hospital, and she refused to go. It was a nightmare.

Her insulting me all the time was way down on the list of things I had to deal with.

My husband/his family couldn’t understand why I put up with her, but she didn’t have anyone else and she had very little control over herself. Believe it or not, deep down she wasn’t a bad person and I did love her and took care of her until she passed away. Most of the time, I could keep her under control by doling out her pills to her daily, the most important one being an anti-psychotic. But sometimes she wouldn’t cooperate and that is when everything would go off into a ditch.

If you think you can’t take it, you just look at the person flinging the insults or being mean. I came to see my mother as something of a child I was looking after. Take a different perspective. Look at who is talking to you.

I’m sure you’re not dealing with stuff like this. But, regardless, Don’t let it bother you. It only does if you let it.