Ledgewood, tough call. It sounds like you'd be healthier if you disclosed this but it could add to the pain she feels about her own history.

So I don't think I can answer this one. I don't know either of you, nor do I know the dynamic of your relationship.

I know that for me, I probably would not tell my wife due to the fact that I've caused her a lot of pain already. But that is my situation and the state of my relationship. I think you have to reflect on your own situation.

Good luck with whatever you choose.

Cyran0