Thanks for all the posts. My mom is like one of those cyborgs that just keeps attacking no matter the issue or condition. I've mentioned before, we (my family) think she's an undiagnosed BP. She's been this way all her life, *always* looking for a fight. Ignoring her would make it worse because she knows I'm ignoring her so she just comes at me harder. At this point in my life, I don't need to be controlled by anyone. In fact, I swore I would put myself FIRST after my diagnosis so I could work on myself and work on getting better. Thus, why call mom if it's going to degenerate into some kind of fight? That doesn't help matters......but not calling doesn't help either. For the record, one of my sisters refused to talk to her for three years. They didn't speak from 2001 to 2004. We all put up with my mom for the sake of my dad.