Oh, Fuzzy. I'm sorry you have had these experiences. My mother abused me; so I understand. Abuse tends to set people up for more abuse later in life from others. Just because people are related doesn't mean they love each other; doesn't mean they are kind and good, automatically. Not all doctors are competent or caring. Some teachers are absolute horrors. Women are not nicer by virtue of them being women. Relatives--well, think of the worst people in history--they all had relatives--who had them as relatives.

You deserve kind, decent treatment.