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Originally Posted by justafriend306
Why do I have such a hard stance? My father was a clergyman. He was called during all hours to counsel and tend to parishoners. I deeply resented - and still do - that my dad couldn't be my dad when I needed him to be so. He was married then to the church first and his profession took priority over that of his own family. Far, far, far, far on too many occasions were our plans to spend time together cancelled. I really don't recall a single weekend out plans were not cancelled on account someone else needed his time more than I did. So no, I could never do that to someone else. Think then about the fairness not only to your psychologist but to his life and family. While he may have chosen such ramifications of his profession - his family did not
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I'm sorry your father didn't have better boundaries and didn't balance your needs against the needs of his parishoners. It sounds like he didn't make enough quality time for you, so I can see where you would be really angry about that. My T has kids at home too, but I trust that she can be both a mom and a therapist and provide for both my needs and the needs of her children. I contact her between sessions when I need to, in a manner we have agreed works for both of us, and I don't spend a lot of time trying to influence her parenting decisions. Her personal life and relationships with her family are not my responsibility. As long as she says it's okay to contact her whenever I need to, I'm going to contact her.