I'm going to be blunt because I don't know how to be anything else. Kick his *** to the curb. Just from your posts I have seen a steady decline in your mental health and well being. You have given him a great opportunity and he is taking advantage of it. He is not a young child and you are not required to coddle him. Perhaps a swift kick in the arse will motivate him to get his life on track. I really think you would be doing him good as well as yourself.

I think with both the bipolar and lung cancer forums, moderation is key. Don't make it a main focus because it will just drag you down. My rule is that the worse I feel, the less time I spend here because I focus on how low I feel and I feel worse.

I am sorry for everything you deal with in regards to lung cancer. I can't begin to imagine what you have gone through, but I'm always here to lend an ear.