((((((((((((((( Justy ))))))))))))))))
(very safe, caring, comforting hugs for you, but only if you want them)

I cannot even begin to imagine the level of pain you experienced growing up with this monster standing in the place where you should have had a caring, protective Daddy. What a horrible, unspeakable thing to have to live through day after day. My heart just completely went out to you reading about these torturous memories of such cruelty and violence.

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So to allow these memories to come, to feel them, to get angry, to get sad: is that not part of healing?

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Yes that is part of it, but it is only a part. A very critical part is where and how this is done, because what that trapped little girl needs most is to have Someone there with her who can give her, in precisely that moment of reliving those things, exactly what she needed all those years ago that she did not receive the first time she had to live through this. That is the most critical component, because that is what will transform a mere reliving of past hell into a miracle of healing in the here-and-now.

Praying you find that.

~mal