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Originally Posted by stahrgeyzer
NO THANKS!!!!!! I hope this post can help someone. Please be very careful with the therapist you see. I can't spend the required time here to write my whole life story of experiences, but I'm convinced alternate personalities can be certain through the power of intent. If you have alters and want to get rid of them, then my advice is to stop feeding that part of you. Completely stop thinking about them as much as possible. Maybe it's become so bad in some people that it's like trying to stop Niagara falls. Sorry if that's the case. In that situation I guess the best hope is to find a therapist who's not going to have you keep feeding that part of you. A therapist who firmly believes alters can be created in therapy.
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It seems that you are basing your opinion of DID on 'your whole life story of experiences' without knowing whether or not you have DID. In fact, as you have considered, it might be something as different as maladaptive daydreaming. While your experiences are certainly valid, you don't yet know if you are comparing apples to apples or apples to oranges.
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Originally Posted by stahrgeyzer
I welcome talking to a therapist even though I'll make sure it's one of those who don't believe in talking to the "alters." I've been talking to the inner people, for what, like going 7 to 10 past years and everything's been going down hill ever since. But that's only my case.
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Imagine a young baseball player entering Little League from back when you and I were kids. At that time there were a number of parents who would still try and get their left-handed children to become right-handed and forced them to write, bat and everything else right-handed. The coach, seeing evidence of this in his young charge asked the young man to bat left handed. His first swings would be awkward, uncoordinated and worse than if he had been batting right handed. However, eventually, his swing would improve and far surpass his batting ability when he was batting righty.
Just because things go downhill for a while, does not mean that it is not the right course of action. My own experience was that things got significantly worse at first after our first moments of co-consciousness. It took eighteen months of sustained effort to repair and build a sustainable relationship. I would suggest, that if you do have DID - and I'm not saying that you do, that trying to control alters by means of starving them out (ignoring them i.e. don't feed that part of yourself) then I am not surprised that things have gone downhill. If you have alters who exist outside of daydreams, then many would call such a relationship abusive.
If you don't have alters outside of daydreams, well that still indicates an issue. Since you are willing to consider going to a therapist it is likely that you are not sure how to deal with this on your own and you might do well to not put constraints on the therapist (i.e. I'll make sure it's one of those who don't believe in talking to the "alters.") before you know what the issue is. At that point, you can make a more informed decision.
For me and my T, there is only one deal breaker - integration is off the table. But I know what I have.