A lot of us had parents who failed us. The blame for that falls squarely on the parents' shoulders. Not calling my T on a weekend isn't going to make her a better or worse parent than she would be otherwise. If she's going to ignore her kids, she can do it while taking to me or she can do it while playing Candy Crush. Or she can be kind and attuned to both me and her kids as she is able, which is what I believe she does. It's all about her priorities and her values, which has zilch to do with me and my behavior. I'm sorry your dad wasn't there for you, but I don't think it does any good for the rest of us to try to guess what our therapists and their families need in their personal lives based on your experience, not based on what our therapists tell us they can accommodate. My inadequate parents wanted me to guess what they needed from me too, which means trying follow your advice with my T would be incredibly unhealthy.

Apologies, Scarlet, for briefly hijacking your thread. I'll hop off my soapbox now.