Thank you Fharraige, WC, TheSadGirl and Sazerac for taking the time to respond with your thoughts. I tend to write when i am feeling really frustrated. So I might be overexaggerating how bad things are.

My son has an anxiety disorder on top of ADHD so that is also a factor. Each day he seems to do a minimum. He just applied for a job at amazon and now is working on microsoft but he really needs to be sending out 20 applications a day rather than just a handful. I need to find a better way to cope and not let it get to me. He's supposed to set his alarm and get up tomorrow morning. I see my pdoc once a week for 45 minute appointments and we spend most of our time talking about my son and how I feel about it and what to do or not to do. I will ask him next week if he also thinks I should kick out my son. I am also worried that doing that might destabilize me.