I see your point Perna.
No he wasn't always like this. He had some obsessive tendencies with regard to his health and a bit self-centered, but I didn't feel victimized. His health is just deteriorating rapidly and everything has gotten SO much worse to the point that I am over the edge and can't seem to get back. I'm feeling guilty because we all get old, fat, wrinkle, less stamina, and sometime sick. We both don't seem to be handling these changes well. He is becoming bitter, angry, less motivated, and a lot more needy and obsessive. I'm being trigger with vision of my father hacking & coughing, the musty smell of smoke and decay, his teeth in a cup on the sink, laying around with is hands in his pants and carting around the 02 tank in his shooter thingy --lets not even talk about what this does to my libido. I know this is simply part of aging, but you don't have to submit and help it along. I am resenting him quitting and dragging me down with him. I feel like I am living with an 80 yr old instead of a 50 yr old.