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Shazerac · 08:18 PM

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Originally Posted by scorpiosis37

You claim your step-son was damaged goods by the age of 2 and then go on to say horrible things about him. It sounds as though he missed out on having the kind of family who would love him and guide him. From what you write, you had very different feelings towards your biological kids and him. That’s really sad. Knowing you are the unloved sibling can permanently alter who a child is going to become. My advice to any parent would be to show the same kind of love to ALL children growing up in the same home.

Before you rush to judgment ....Actually she didn’t say damaged goods. She said she knew something was terrible wrong. There’s a huge difference.

I knew something was terrible wrong with my biological daughter from the time she was a toddler. She was violent and exhibited psychotic behavior before she was out of diapers. She didn’t see violence on tv because I didn’t have TV. She would fling herself at me in a rage and bite me so hard she drew blood. No amount of explaining that we don’t bite people or any kind of discipline helped. She talked to people who weren’t there frequently I could tell she was hallucinating. She was constantly getting trouble in school for beating up her classmates. and I mean serious beatings not slappy hair pulling spats.

She threw furniture though windows. When she got bigger than me she started attacking me.

She would tell people that she was raised in an orphanage while I was sitting right there In the room. She invented so many scenarios about how I abused that she did actually get taken away from me once. I still remember her screaming when they took her away. She had no concept of consequences if actions.

Well now she’s an adult. She’s been in and out of psych hospitals, never was med compliant,and has done long stints of jail time (years) for violent attacks, check and insurance fraud. She had kids and they got taken away before I even knew what happened. For the last few years she’s been couch surfing. Basically homeless. Because she is so violent the option for her to stay with me is null and void. There were times that she threatened to kill me and proceeded to try to do so. It would take several grown men to get her off me because she’s a big girl.

Is she a “loser”? I don’t know. She’s not very successful in life. I tried to get help for her but 40 years ago psych docs just didn’t believe that a young child could have serious issues.

Anyway I’m done with my rant. I just want to say that loving your child doesn’t always solve problems. Don’t be too quick to blame the mother.