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Yes I am suppose to reach out to T when I want to partake in my maladaptive behaviors but sometimes I just do not want to be stopped, or I do not want to look like I am trying to get attention or I do not want to bother him and I hate being so damn needy. He says it is a child part and we have 3 parts. Parent, Adult and child. When this child part becomes active that is when the behaviors come to play. I ams suppose to take my parent part and lovingly talk to that child part and not yell at it or criticize it. Comfort it and maybe tuck it into bed and give it a lollipop.
Ok I have to admit that has never worked but hey you can try it as it might work for you.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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