Update: so I accidentally came out as sort of trans/non binary to my mom. A guy on Facebook was making some ignorant statements about trans people and I made a comment about biological sex and gender being different and how I'm biologically female but I'm not ACTUALLY female. I commented it not thinking about how my mom would most likely see it. My dad unfriended me and my stepmom blocked me on Facebook so I didn't worry about them seeing it, and most of my other family members don't comment or share any of my posts, so I assume they don't see them. And I don't care if the handful of people who actually read my posts know I'm trans or whatever.

But yeah, my mom saw it and asked "you aren't talking about yourself are you?" And I responded "[emoji53] uuuuuhhhhhh soooooooooo"and it took several minutes for me to come out and say it, but I did. My mom told me that she felt kinda bad that I don't feel like I'm either gender. But other than that it was cool. Lots of hugging. She wasn't saying anything in a bad way or anything like that. I can tell she was surprised but I know she's open minded and supportive. I'm glad she finally knows, but as it's only been a few days now, I'm not comfortable talking about it quite yet.