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Old Apr 29, 2018, 12:45 PM
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Originally Posted by BudFox View Post
She forced me out, but i also wanted out because it had become very unhealthy.

Her initial reasoning was that my "transference" was a problem.

Later she said the modality in which she was trained did not meet my needs.

I suspect her supervisor was coaching her.

We had a couple of final sessions.

She told me her "door was always open" then later said... oops the door is now closed, and petulantly told me never to contact her again after some toxic back and forth.

All post-termination interaction involved unilateral decision making on her part. The "relationship" suddenly became parent-child, with her as erratic and irrational parent.

The referrals i pursued were useless. These therapists advocated for the therapist in question, or said pointless things. It was degrading and insane.

The termination was destructive. Continuing would have been destructive. It's not that she was incompetent. It was dysfunctional from day one.

It was emotional prostitution that gratified no real needs, and which ended in ridiculous fashion, leaving a new set of problems on top of the existing ones.
Ok, one thing you said in this post really struck something in me : "I suspect her supervisor was coaching her." I have felt that too recently, with the odd shift, aloofness, and Freudianlike distance I am receiving.

Also, this is a bit off topic and personal, so please don't feel like you need to answer, as it's fairly personal. (Sorry, trying to work through my own stuff and hearing what others have gone through is helpful.) Did your T ever make comments that made you feel like you were more than 'just a client'? Like, she said she liked you, cared for you, anything? Just wondering if so, did it make it that much harder?

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mostlylurking, Out There
Thanks for this!
mostlylurking