She felt overwhelmed and inadequate not knowing how to treat my trauma as I didn't believe I had trauma and she wasn't trauma informed or trained in it.

Eventually a peer of hers (now my current T) suggested schema therapy which we felt was worth a shot. She kept saying she wasn't competent but I didn't want another therapist. I was afraid of being abandoned and wanted to stick it out. So she tried but the modality demands a lot she can't give.

Eventually she told me she was going on maternity leave and had carefully chosen which substitute therapist in the practice I would see. She chose very carefully and I decided to stay on with that therapist who is current T.

I'm really glad ex T chose current T and that they both wanted me to pick the therapist I felt was useful.