Hello, fellow genderfluid FAAB! I have had orgasms with both genders, in spite of my medication, and in spite of my true sexual preference, but that's a topic for another thread.

You said you feel bad about the sex you were "forced to be." Do you wish you could be the gender of your choice at any given time, or is it more that having female genitals isn't always conducive to sexual pleasure? Do you want to have love and sex coexist, or do you feel pressured to make them fit together?

I couldn't agree with you more about the "she cums first" mindset. We can't cum at all if every couple of seconds he's whining: "Did you cum yet? Why didn't you cum yet?" To be fair, some of that may be a poorly executed attempt at being generous in bed, but it can easily cross over into "my ego is hurt if you don't" territory. Takes all the fun out of things.

And receiving oral sex. It does nothing for me, especially when performed by a man.

I felt chronically sexually unsatisfied until this past year when I stopped worrying (at least within myself) about how I was "supposed" to engage in relationships and sex. Like most things in my life, to feel normal, I don't always act normal.