LP , this isn't directed to your T bc mine is the same.

I sometimes stop and wonder about all this. My T sometimes will let me email and not reply. What is the sum-total of writing to someone who picks and chooses if to respond?

I reply to all my clients- for myriad reasons like I value them choosing me, I care about their thoughts and questions, and it is just de rigour in today's climate of social media.

The T's setting rules on this kind of normal stuff further heightnes their power in our minds- I hope that is to the good, but I think it makes me question my T's sincerity at times and at other times I think it is quaint and stylized way to be slightly irresponsible lol or avoid work other professions are doing routinely.

This frame came to be in times before social media etc, and some T's jump in that and use Therachat and other communication tools

Making it all about in session DOES heighten the session time and the status of the clinician, but for those of us over focused anyway, I wonder f it works against the greater good?