(((((mckell)))))

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My T said something like.. 'No amount of therapy can make me change what I am feeling or not feeling. Your abuse is there, its always going to be there, you can't ease it, you're always going to feel victimized.'

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I just really disagree with that. I do believe abuse is something we can work on successfully in therapy. It would be a real downer for me if my T had such a negative attitude. It is hard enough when the client has negative thoughts. The T needs to be positive and offer hope! ((((hugs)))) I am hoping you misunderstood her.

mckell, is your husband chronically ill, or are his physical health problems minor or imagined/exagerated?

It sounds like he is really depressed to me, just based alone on his lack of good hygiene (smelling musty, decaying, & smoky, spitting into random containers throughout the house). He needs a doctor to give him the wake up call, if you have been unable to. I would urge you to speak with his doctor soon.

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I feel like I am living with an 80 yr old instead of a 50 yr old.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">He does not sound like a 50 year old! 50 is not that old.

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BTW he never once asked me how I was doing or feeling.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Mckell, I have been there, done that for 20 years. My H never cared a fig for my health or well-being and certainly didn't "fake" it by asking me. Yeah, it hurts, and can breed a lot of resentment and anger when you are expected to give give give and he is not.

It is HUGE that you are speaking to him about the problems and telling him how he is affecting you and the kids. If therapy has helped you with this, wonderful! You are sticking up for your health and your family's health. Mama Bear!

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I struggled a lot in our session. Specially when, against my direct request, she whipped out and read allowed portions of the letter I had written.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">That sounds kind of hostile, or at least hurtful. I don't think the T should drag the client where she is not ready to go. I am glad you are emailing with your T about what does and does not work.

Oh, wow, a 3 week break right now! I am so sorry. I hope you will hang out here on PC and get some support during the break. We're here!