Quote:
Originally Posted by ElectricManatee
If this happened to me, I would absolutely ask my T why she gave me the extra stone and what she was thinking when she did it. I would also probably mention the part where I felt like maybe she was being competitive with my partner or maybe she was threatened by the affront to her geological knowledge, etc. All of it, even though I would probably make zero eye contact as I said it.
I say the "if this happened to me..." bit because these situations are where my T really shines, when we can kind of pick apart something that happened and what she felt and what I felt and what I thought she felt. I'm rubbing my hands together with glee because in these moments I am often so very wrong, and it shines a giant spotlight on the things that keep me psychologically distressed. I don't know if every T works this way, but I'm delighted when my T and I can really dig into an incident like this.
That said, it's possible that he's just beyond excited that you showed even a tiny interest in his totally geeky hobby. There are one or two topics where my T and I share an intense interest in something, and I can see her excitement and extra willingness to share pop up occasionally when those topics come up in session. It seems like good technique to highlight similarities for bonding purposes, but I think it can also just be the excitement of connecting with somebody over something that's important to you.
|
Thank you Manatee - I actually feel quite inspired by that to be brave and explore this with him! I know from experience that such topics often turn out to be the most useful and powerful places to go, but I do always find it hard at first. I guess it's also that the part of me that rather liked the whole thing doesn't want to 'ruin it' by drawing more attention to it.
I also generally enjoy finding out that I was wrong - as long as I have enough faith in and respect for the other person involved. I think me and T have done a little bit of that sort of work, and I think we have the potential to do plenty more of it!