Where there is abuse there is no REAL love. People may call what they think they feel "LOVE" but in reality if someone truly loves someone they will NOT be abusive or play games. Most people who do that in REALITY don't know what REAL love is & just because that is what they call it doesn't mean that is what it really is.

I know finally that there was NO LOVE in my marriage on either side. Found our he got married because it was what he was supposed to do after graduating college & for me, I lost respect for him 2 months before the wedding & that right there shot down any feeling of love I might have ever felt. I was more interested in getting my degree & having a career. Marriage was mire just like a business partnership & I blew off the red flags after tellung my mom I really wanted to cancel the wedding. I realize that all the things he did before & after the wedding just turned me off & I really wanted nothing to do with him but just keot teying to make it work....wuthout any love....but I was too busy with my own life to really bother with how bad it was on an emotional level....plus I grew up with totally disfunctilnal parents in an emotilnal level no had no idea what normal was to compare with.

But just be wise about what you are calling love....it may not really be love at all.