I usually feel better when I have fully communicated with someone over something important to me. I can feel respected and understood, which I prefer because it makes me feel good personally, regardless of the outcome.

After the hardships I endured, it is important to express myself and receive respect for my thoughts and/or feelings.

In case it's an issue for you too, I thought I'd mention it.

I struggled for years before I actually learned to speak up for what i need, then to actually use the tools in an effective manner - well - that took time too, and some mistakes.
But I really gained from seeing eye-to-eye with individuals, agreeing to disagree, if necessary, but most importantly, not having all the old fears.

Good luck on your next request for an explanation and solution.

Peace