Sol,

I definitely think you should pull the temper tantrum thing. I would be the perfect response to his "no." In fact, you two are so attuned that your fantasy of having the tantrum is probably a response to his flat out no.

I also think Almeda was right. T was acting like a child here, not you. I think you should tell him to "use his words" to explain himself--just like
you would do with a pre-schooler who is walking around the house saying no to everything.

I go twice a week to therapy--now I am afraid he'll kick me out.