Hello everyone, here's a question you're the best people to help with! I'm borderline, and I'm certain my adult daughter is as well (classic patterns!). What I can't figure out is how to raise the subject with her. She's also bipolar and has been lying to doctors for years to avoid the diagnosis. I know that if I suggest to her that she might be borderline, she'll flip out -- she'd take it as some sort of condemnation even though she knows I'm borderline too. She's unable to tolerate anything she perceives as criticism, often even a difference of opinion. She's in a pretty scary place right now and I would like her to have this one simple tool (the label -- oh, she hates labels!) because knowledge really is power. Thoughts?