Let me make clear that I have no problem with anyone watching porn. I have my personal beliefs but only the Almighty can judge, certainly not me. Everyone as an individual has a right to explore their sexuality freely. I'm not sure if you are married SeeSaw but just like being a parent, it takes one to know one. The bottom line is that porn is not something i want to incorporate in our marriage.

As far as demanding to look at his phone, i understand completely that this behavior will get neither of us anywhere. Because in the end I can't actually make him show me what he has on his phone. I really wish I could just not care and overlook it. But his hiding it is something that torments me. He's even admitted that he's done it on purpose just to torment me and teach me a lesson (or was he really trying to conceal what he wad really doing?). This is the thing that I don't know how to deal with...the not knowing whether he's still secretly watching porn or he is frustrated with my untrusting behavior.