I’m really sorry you are going through this. I went through that with my daughter. I finally had to stop giving her money after I maxed out all my credit cards and went bankrupt. Just as a cherry on top of the crap cake it tuned out she was using the money to buy drugs. She still blames me for everything wrong with her life and she’s 45 years old. Hang in there as best you can but please, I beg you, take care of yourself. It’s not your fault that your son is like he is!!!