That's a tough situation, Shazerac, and painful too. I am sorry for you and also for your daughter. I think the 'blame trap' stifles and wrecks many lives. I don't know whhi e he is otherwise blaming himself so it is a displacement of sorts. I did get angry yesterday and still feel some of that. Enough to write him out of my will. I told him so yesterday. Money is one thing that will get his attention and he has told me that he will never be addicted to anything. I think my lung cancer from previously smoking would be a good example of the benefits of not getting addicted to things. I am hoping yesterday was particularly bad because that 20 mg of Vyvanse made him even more agitated, anxious and unhappy. I just don't relate to his pity party.