I found this article and it really rung a lot of bells for me. I think it can be helpful and even validating because if one or even worse both your parents were narcissistic, then the result was emotional neglect and always feeling you had to "please" a certain way to have a sense of value. Also, a narcissist will focus a lot of "public image" and that will send confusing messages in that a child will see the narcissistic parent acting one way in public and yet not the same way in their family unit. A child doesn't have the capacity to understand "the mask" this kind of parent has. As a result, a child may end up in a toxic relationship with a partner that has this same dynamic of maintaining "the mask" and instead of recognizing the red flags, these red flags may even feel safe simply because they are familiar. The other thing that can happen is thinking that a partner should be given in to, be allowed to exhibit childish tantrums and that parenting and fixing and giving in or "enabling" is "normal" in a relationship when the truth is it brings on constant stresses and feelings of "loneliness" where something is missing that one can't always quite articulate.
https://pro.psychcentral.com/recover...are-having-suc