Soliaree and Sunrise,
You both commented on my T's response. I am very pissed about it and at this point, I'm trying to interpret things from her perspective. I would REALLY like to call her up and say, "look I need to know what you were thinking here and WHY did you do what you did?" But this is not possible so (good or bad) I am left to speculate --even though I know I should just let it go and ask her in 3 weeks.

Possible reasons for opening and directly discussing the letter in the session.
1. She had read the letter when it first arrive, dumped it in my file, saw it in there when she opening my file again when I arrived and just started there maybe not remembering my request "NOT" to read or let me even "SEE" it in my file.

2. She read the letter but felt compelled to openly discuss it directly. Maybe there is therapeutic objective she wanted to achieve that I don't understand.

3. She read the letter knew how ashamed, guilty and embarrassed I would feel if she did exactly what I told her not to do. Since all therapist like to %^&* with your mind and she has been unsuccessful in causing me to breakdown and cry in her presents...She decided this would be a good chance for her to see if she could really rattle me. She deliberately wanted to see if she could make me crash.

Hmmm... Which of these are is most realistic... :-)

I can be a total paranoid freak at times. Is this part of my victimized pathology?