Fellow hater of Zoloft here. I have not experienced the drop in sex drive many people on it do, but I understand that it’s common and it’s not easy to deal with. It’s made less easy to deal with if your partner is putting his desires ahead of your needs. If your sex drives are that incompatible and he makes it all about him, that’s a pretty good sign to end things.

I was in a relationship with (and then engaged to) a man who constantly accused me of cheating. Our issue wasn’t sex; it was emotional intimacy and him wanting me to be with him every possible moment. Having autism (not diagnosed or medicated at that time) made me not good at either of those things. I never cheated, and never did anything that would suggest I was cheating. We would always argue about it, and it always devolved into him listing things he thought were wrong with him. I had no friends; he was my only social connection. I wish I had left him when my parents first suggested it. So I didn’t have any friends in my area; at least I wouldn’t have had to deal with someone who insisted I be with him constantly and accuse me of cheating when I was at school. After 2 years of dating followed by 6 months of engagement, I knew I needed to get out. It took me another 6 months to work up the courage and form a plan to end it.

I know it’s easy for me to say as an anonymous internet person, especially not knowing the positives of the relationship that keep you in it, but I would end things with him to get some peace and try to find things to do that you actually enjoy. You may want the social piece of your life to fall into place right now, but in my experience that doesn’t often happen until the other areas of your life are solid, even though it helps to have that social support to get to feeling better. People are confusing things.

Wishing you all best.