freewill, first off, I'm so sorry. That was such a sad post, my heart goes out to you.

But I don't think your abusers "won". They succeeded in taking some things from you, it's true. But the war isn't over and you're constantly gaining ground. And while I don't know the specifics of the situation regarding your son, that relationship isn't over either. There's time and relationships can change with time.

It sounds like therapy is giving you a better sense of your own worth and a belief that you're able to be loved. That's wonderful. And true.

The struggle continues free but I do think you've succeeded in breaking the cycle of abuse with your son and for that you're a hero.

Cyran0