I told a friend we could sleep together sometimes but not have sex. I'm leaving it up to her if we do. I know I'd probably be better off with a cat/dog, but I've done this before with another friend.
That friend and I did sleep together five times and it was very comforting and I felt very safe too. I was married at the time but it was never about sex, but very intimate. We held each other most of the night and took turns being the big spoon. I didn't get that at home unless she wanted something and even then it felt cheap and unrealistic.
I haven't been friends with this new woman for long and it probably freaked her out. I think I need to explain it to her. Or, should I do something else? Should I have not done that?