I definitely feel for you. I'm married to someone who suffers from anxiety and depression. It presented 2 years ago when I took a job transfer forcing us to move 2 hours from her hometown. She also had prior trauma. Did the whole psychiatrist thing with cocktails of meds. It made the problem much worse. The side effects were worse than the symptoms.

Anyway, we got her off of everything. Hit the reset button. Overall she's better than she was when she was on meds, but still has to self manage. We're now looking at underlying causes. Possible autoimmune thyroid disorder. Just waiting on blood tests now.