It is totally not their job to tell you what you're doing "wrong." I'm sorry that happened!

Are you in contact with your parents? Do you have an ok relationship with them? I know you'd said in the past your dad wasn't always very nice. But I'm wondering about your mom? Also can you call your T?

Either way, can you find a way to cool down for now? I learned about splashing cold water on my face when I'm upset. It actually helps! Also sometimes I wrap myself in a blanket and just listen to my favorite music.

Heh, I'd started a thread on self soothing in the Coping With Emotions forum. I need to listen to my own advice!

Hugs, VO.