Yeah but school is kind of a big deal, isnt it? Its like a once in a lifetime thing.

Not texting if you hear seems passive aggressive or withholding or fearful or untrusting or something. Self protective? Like transference in action. Youre planning on holding something from the past against him, on something that hasnt even happened yet.

When "they say" therapy is the relationship that heals, i think they mean the spontaneous stuff. The stuff that happens in the moment between 2 people.