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This makes sense...I mean, it could be, too, in the beginning, he knew I pushed lots of boundaries with my marriage counselor--and ex-MC let me do that, too, and would relax his boundaries. So maybe T was trying to be particularly strict about his boundaries, because he was expecting me to keep pushing them. But then...for example, when he told me I had been intrusive with the one text, I haven't texted him about anything but scheduling since (and actually, one of those was an e-mail because it wasn't overly urgent). So maybe he realizes that once he's clear about boundaries, I *do* respect them. So than he's OK with loosening them a bit because he believes that I won't take advantage of them. Maybe I just had to prove myself, in a sense.
And for sharing more (like political stuff) in session, it could just be he's feeling more comfortable with me in general, so he's relaxing during session and letting more of himself in. Like just a natural progression of a relationship.
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If I had to make guess LT I would imagine he let his 'guard' down and that he will probably be back to his old self the next session but I could be very wrong. It will be interseting to see how he responds if you bring it up. ....I'm with everyone else..the use of the word 'honey' would have weirded me out.
Each time my T has done something similar i.e more conversational or open he always seems to pull back again the next session. I don't know is it that he gets scared or what but it's happened a bit. Nothing quite as significant or obvious as calling me 'honey' though so I don't really feel I can bring it up as it could also all be me projecting.