Many of us have made bad choices & I had to look back 33 years to remember why I rationalized away the red flags I saw before the wedding that had made me want to back out....only to finally leave 33 years later for those same issues that had only gotten worse.

When I left I was a mess. I had dealt with major depression & anxiety for the last 13 years I lived with him. I ended up with PTSD from a trauma I went through protecting my mom from an abusive home care person when my mom was dying of cancer & I had NEVER lived on my own ever before in my life. I had no idea if I could handle it let alone in the condition I was in.....add anorexia to that mix also & very under weight.

Honestly leaving was the best thing I cpuld have ever done. It gave me back not only my freedom but also my self-confidence. Being away from the stressful emotionally messed up marriage alowed me to start thinking again, functioning again, & finally being able to see clearly the bad marriage I left. It is definitely possible....but tjat first step leaving is the hardest