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i just don't know anymore. i am facing the biggest thing so far in my career and there's a lot of pressure, i have all the usual medical stuff (pain and stuff) and i have this developing major life crisis. Is now really the time for me to be trying to learn new skills? Is it not reasonable for me to need some stasis right now?

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Interesting... because I was asking myself some questions like this Tuesday after my appointment. I also have a very full plate at the moment and I was questioning.. what the %^&* am I doing adding more stress. To me therapy is supposed to help me feel BETTER not worse. I understand that it can be difficult at times, and sometimes you need to open wounds in order to achieve healing, bah, bah, bah... But for me in the end when I leave the session damn it I SHOULD FEEL BETTER! Not more lost, not more stress, not more helplessness!

I don't think this expectation is unreasonable for patients to have when seeking any health care intervention. When I treat my patient's, mosts expect to leave the appointment feeling at least slightly better than when they came. In fact, I use my skills to facilitate this because I want them to be compliant, to trust me, and to come back.

Why would we expect anything different from psychotherapy? If we think we need loving, caring, and supportive feedback shouldn't our Ts give us that? If we have been abused and we just discovered in therapy that what our "inner child" wants to be held, hugged, and unconditionally loved, shouldn't our T provide that? If we went to therapy and found out that we don't accept care from others well, it seems reasonable that our T's would give us lots and lots of CARING, so that we could practice accepting it. I'm not a trained psychotherapist but; it makes sense to me. I'm paying for therapy give me what I want.

Now that I wrote that I'm honestly thinking, I'd really like therapy that. Why can't it be like that? I did have a point here.... oh yeah

Maybe as Perna ( with her usually insightfulness) pointed out in my thread....Maybe...just maybe the therapeutic process is something more. What?... I don't know...How?... I really don't know.. Why... ???? Maybe there is a good reason for why it can be like described above.

Jello... sorry if this is just senseless rambling. I just wanted to say.. I hear you, I can totally relate to what you are expressing, and I feel the same way sometimes. I'm hoping that the frustration, and stress, turmoil you are feeling right now will eventually lead to a better place some how.