I've working my way through some life turbulence and have decided to seek ideas on how to achieve the yet unachievable and quite arbitrary step 10.

Step 10: Demanding Significant Reparations when loved ones (or therapists) do things to hurt you or just plain %#@&#! ya off, for no justifiable reason. At least not justifiable as far as the offended is concern. :-)

Now Step 10 is not intended to be punitive or vindictive but instead REPARATIVE

For some reason I can't seem to demand that others take actions to repair the damage their actions may have had on me. So I am seeking your help by asking you: What things to you seek when a loved one has hurt you. Is a simple apology enough? A good lay? Do they have to demonstrate in some way that they understand how the hurt you and commit to trying to be more considerate in the future?

What kinds of things to you want to help you heal the hurt? Feel free to have fun in responding to this thread.