Ok, so I’m going to climb on my soap box a little bit . I HATE these terms, they are designed just to hurt people.

My eldest niece lead a very sheltered life growing up she was a book worm and never dated in high school. When she started college and was living on her own there was a big deal made about the amount of boys that she was sleeping with.

I was amazed that her great-grandmother, my grandmother, who had not one but TWO kids out of wedlock with the same man in the 50’s when that was not done, and got pregnant again by the biggest *** that has ever walked the face of the earth and married him because she was pregnant. He was not nice to her children, my mother and my Aunt. This woman felt it was acceptable to pass judgment on her granddaughter. I was so angry. She was not saying “hey, I made a mistake, I really don’t want you to make the same.” She was passing judgment. I was able to shut her up with one question, “how did grandpa P feel about Bobby?” I was going to be damned if she made that little girl (to me she is) cry while reinventing her own history!

I told her, and my own kids this: It is my opinion that a female should not be held to a different standard than a man. If you want to sleep with someone do it. Keep in mind that casual sex is dangerous and not very fulfilling. Never agree because it’s easier than refusing, ALWAYS use a condom and if he’s in another relationship and is willing to cheat on her, then he’ll cheat on you. If he’s not willing to wait until you’re ready then he’s not worth your time. If he has kids, ask him what the last thing he did with them was and when. If he doesn’t remember than don’t expect him to treat you better than his own kids. You’ll never find a long term relationship with someone you meet in a bar.

Calling someone a prostitute and someone a ***** are two different things. ***** is an insult, prostitution is a job. I am amazed that in this day and age we still care about other people’s sex life.