I would say that my therapists typically don’t judge me at all and in fact work to make me feel more normal so I would say your T overstepped their boundaries. However I suspect you T is a parent and defense of kids could be a gut instinct that overrode their training as a T. Regardless I don’t think judgement belongs in the therapy room. Also consider white noise, I go to bed around nine too and always need a fan or some wave music to drown out the small noises that come with having neighbors.