Update to my post about yesterday's session where T said, "I'm a lot older than you, honey." I e-mailed him about it this morning. He sent a really thoughtful reply where he apologized for the "honey" thing, saying he'd meant to be humorous, but in reading it typed out, he realizes how it may have sounded. And that he hoped I'd accept his apology (and he'd be more mindful of such things in the future). He also said with the age thing, he knows how old I am, but for him, being almost 50 seems a long way from 40. But how that's his issue, so he'll be more mindful of that in future sessions.

He also brought up a good insight that I think is much of what's really behind my being bothered by the age thing: "I think your feelings on this matter reflect your deep fears/concerns about not being heard, known, or understood. 'how can he know me if he doesn't even know how old I am?' I think that this deserves additional conversation." That rang true for me, so will be a good topic of discussion Monday.