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Originally Posted by FallDuskTrain
I don't think it is weird not to have your preferences defined; but it is necessary, in my opinion, to have your 'deal breaker' and 'must have' list in tact. These two lists help me to practice self-care, manage my irrational desires and as a result they hold me back from falling in love with the wrong person. Even if my emotions scream 'go for it', these lists help my mind to stay alert and be cautions.
I do not compromise my 'deal breaker' items (no alcohol/drugs, no unhealthy life style, no 'i want to be rich and successful' syndrome, no worldly ambitions, etc.). Again, these are my guidelines and they are comprehensive and long but I don't want to share everything on that list and offend anyone else. It is irrelevant anyways.
Well, you know my disclaimer: I have been single for over decade so you may want to listen to my insight with that in mind  otherwise you may end up alone just like me and I do not wish that upon anyone. |
Fall, you gotta stop self deprecating your opinions and advice. you are as wise and knowledgeable as many people here and just because you've been single a long time doesn't invalidate that.
with that being said you make very good points. None of yours in particular are remotely unreasonable and make sense that they are important to you so you don't budge.
I'd have to think on it a bit but a couple off the top of my head would be not someone that comes into my life and make me be something that I'm not. so tired of that. Also not overly expectant of constant interaction or feedback because much of the time I'm rather in my head, in my own world but that's not to say that I don't enjoy the intimacy too just not 24x7 or even every minute you're together (if living with together) Acceptance I think is the most important thing I would ask for. I am what I am, if you have a problem with any aspect of me, then you need not apply.
