Fall.....what you have to say is right on & if you look at all the miserable people who haven't followed that kind of advice.....would they not be better off single in many cases?

I would wish singleness on anyone struggling because if you don't know yourself, making a life with someone else ends up just turning the person into nothing more than what the other wants, losing one's own identity or creates a battle ground miserable to live in.....so is being alone really that bad. I prefer my last 11 years alone to anything I experienced the previous 33 years living in the marriage. I am FINALLY happy & know I would NEVER be happy again unless my "deal breaker " preferences are met. I will never just settle & hope for the best again even at the age of 65.