MzJello, he called you right back. How much more "there" could he be? His self was there. That's all he has to give you!

Think of a baby and how it learns to go to sleep. It has to learn to self-soothe, and at first, it cries a lot before it goes to sleep? His "holding" you and saying supportive things to you would not have gotten you further toward your goal with him of getting to sleep on your own?

Yes, you're having a heck of a stressful life right now; are crying yourself to sleep for a longer period of time. But when you get to sleep, it will be your doing. You won't be dependent on the Rozerem. Put your T's name in place of the sleep med. Wouldn't you prefer natural sleep? The crisis is for a limited period; between us :-) and T and YOU, you'll make it through that period. The more "you" the better.

Another way of thinking about it; think of the crisis and think about comforting "words" in the crisis. The words don't help the crisis in any way, actually can distract you from working on it? They're just "nice". I don't want my fire fighters stopping in the middle of fighting a fire to accept a glass of water from the nice little old lady -- look at runners and how fast they dash that water into their faces and throw the cup away! Concentrate on the crisis, not how comfortable or uncomfortable you feel?

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