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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee
I haven't had anything nearly this intense happen with a therapist, but I want to say that I think it's brave and awesome that you're trying again. I saw a "new" backup T on Wednesday, and it was startling how easy it was to open up to her now that I am a veteran client. I was crying or almost-crying for most of the session with this total stranger, and I felt oddly comfortable with it. So it might be easier than you think, especially if this new T is a good fit for you.
It seems unlikely that this T is going to want to pin the blame on you for what happened with your former T. Blame doesn't seem like a terribly useful construct in healing painful things like what happened to you. But since you know going in that assigning blame won't be useful, you can use that as criteria to screen her out if she goes there and won't respond to your attempts to re-direct.
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That's a good point, maybe I will fall easily into my "therapy client" self even though the T and the office are different. I suppose that many of us get better at finding our feelings and bringing them forward, so hopefully I can still do that and get some relief.
I agree that blame doesn't seem very therapist-like, at any rate not in the first session surely? But if that were to happen, you're right, I can just not go back because that's not a T I would want.