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Originally Posted by downandlonely
I have a big problem with unconditional love. I think love should have conditions. Would you still love someone if they started abusing you? What if they murdered people you cared about? At this point, it's healthier to stop loving.
But then again, I'm not even sure I'm capable of love.
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You ask a very good question.
I cannot say I fully understand this. I think some of it comes from a personal commitment to living with a heart wide open, no matter what?
Within my own life experience, I have had people do things others find "unforgivable." I set boundaries, I experience anger, I sometimes experience trouble forgiving, etc.
Whenever we judge others, we have something to learn.
Yet, in my heart and in the end, a love for other human beings wins out. I may not like what they are doing or did. I may not be able to deal with them personally; yet, a love for them -- a sincerely unconditional well wish -- prevails.
It's not because I need more experience with human nature and all it can do. I live with C-PTSD and know, first hand, all about human nature, etc.
As I have written, I cannot fully explain the reason I feel this way. I have ample reason to be closed off and bitter, to be unforgiving, even hostile. It just doesn't sit well with me to be anything but open-hearted.
WC