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Old May 04, 2018, 09:25 PM
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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight View Post
My experience isn't quite like yours, in that I was still seeing my marriage counselor when I started with my current T about 8 months ago. But I was seeing him in part to deal with that relationship, the transference and attachment, which ex-T hadn't really helped me with. I was concerned when I learned (just before our first session) that T used to work with MC--was afraid it would make him be biased toward MC. I will say, in the beginning, T seemed a bit skeptical of some of what I was saying about MC.
Speaking from the position I'm in now, LT, I think this was so brave of you to go forward, speak about your experience, and trust that any bias your T had would work itself out. And I'm glad it did!

My new (prospective) T went through the exact same MSW program as ex T but she graduated 2 years earlier, and it's a 16- or 24- month program, so she would have just missed him. Still, they have both been practicing in the same town for 25+ years, so it's not unlikely they know of each other, though they may not know each other personally. (Whenever I mentioned another local T, like the T of a friend, to ex T, he was always interested to know who it was. Which I though was kind of awful -- like gossip. But I bet it's true to life, they all get to know each other.) And that has been concerning me.

I think I'll try to withhold his first name, but just not worry about it if it comes out. If I see her several times hopefully she will see me as a reasonable person. It's helpful to hear about your experience with this, it helps me be less worried that she'll just discount me if she does know ex T.
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Thanks for this!
LonesomeTonight